The Good Ones

​​In our lives we interact with a wide range of people, and are a feature in their interpersonal landscape. The people we know serve as one of our key motivators, complicators, and sources of joy - the people around us matter. 
 
As we ramble through life we are regularly shoved face-first into engagement with others. We manage, enjoy, tolerate, celebrate, consider and evaluate these interactions, and the people involved. There is a near constant process of being drawn towards, or repelled from, the wonderfully unique range of individuals who form our worlds. 
 
What we experience when appraising and appreciating others depends on behaviours and attitudes. People operate their lives based on all kinds of beliefs, reactions, philosophical structures, and often simple instinctual action. 
 
Some examples could be:
 
Giving a present -

• it is a reflection of a belief structure - today is your birthday … here is your present … a new bowtie for wearing on formal occasions. 
• or, is an expression of your emotional state - I feel such connection and love for you that I bought you this cupcake. 
• or, it is a mechanism to influence and modify the people around you - now that you have this stylish keep-cup, perhaps you won’t have to consume the planet with a disposable cup of coffee everyday. 

 
Whenever ranking another person’s needs against our own -

• there is a choice made based on a set code of conduct - You are from another country, stressed, and at an airport, here please use my phone. 
• or, it is an instinctual reaction for satisfaction which guides behaviour - I’m going to change lanes and go through that yellow light … you will probably need to brake and then stop. 
• or, a logical calculation based on information and an ideal of the best possible outcome  - that person has been waiting far longer than I have … they should have the last Marble Rye. 

 
In all situations people react and live their lives guided by dogma, experience, instinct, belief or random action. We walk around the place and interact in different and distinct ways. We vibrate on different frequencies. 
 
It is these differences that serve to make our world interesting, and potentially it is these various complicated frequencies that draw us towards specific individuals.  There are people in our lives  who we think are great. Maybe everyone thinks that person is great; perhaps it is just you. Regardless, that person’s internal mixture of beliefs, structures, instincts and behaviours strike you deeply as excellent. 
 
These people are ‘the good ones’. As far as you are concerned they manage to regularly make choices, display behaviour and represent ideas, that vibrate at a frequency which you fundamentally find wonderful. From a deep and essential place in your being you are able to truly experience value from interactions with them. Something inside you says, “that is a good one”. 
 
This perception can occur with people you know deeply and see regularly, or with individuals who bounce occasionally against your life. Perhaps you understand their motivations and ideas intimately, or maybe you just know, that most times you observe the way they go about their lives there is something special and valuable. 
 
You don’t really have to know why. It is, however, important to take a moment to recognise the truth … which is: that person is special to you. There is peace and happiness to be found in finding a moment to appreciate the valuable people who populate your life. And possibly further benefit in celebrating and sharing the positive influence of their existence on your life. 
 
The Good Ones, you know what they are to you. An interesting question is, do they?