​What do you think about a superhero type character who has an above average ability to tolerate discomfort? 
 
- Now, not physical discomfort, his pain threshold is pretty much normal, it is the ability to accept and manage mental and psychological tension that is better than normal. You know … so if something was scary, like starting a new job, this Magical Character would be a little anxious - sure, its a big deal - however, he would also know deeply that it was going to be OK.

​And what about a Mysterious Legend who has a superhuman power for remembering the balance of positive and negative even in the face of immediately disappointing circumstances? 
 
- Like when disaster strikes, such as a moderately serious road collision causing medium damage to both cars. This Pillar of Hope and Justice can recognise that there will be loss of time, money and logistical harmony in life for a while, but also that with patience and compassion the situation will be resolved effectively. 

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​And how about a courageously Unmasked Crusader who is able to empathise with both sides of a disagreement, even when directly involved?
 
- When presented with a conflicted situation in a social setting, Humanity’s Hope is successfully able to sympathise with and appreciate both points of view, even while arguing against one of them.  
 
And what about when in the face of a crisis that was immediate, pressing and all consuming, though in the long run of limited danger and seriousness, our Hero is able to see the funny side, right then?  
 
- Confronted with a lost house key, when the weight of the day presses down like an avalanche threatening to crush and destroy, and the repeated phone calls for aid go flying unanswered into the black night air. When the bottomless chasm of a bag fails again and again to yield forth the coveted token of salvation from a miasma of headphones, sticks of gum and lip balm containers. When the panic and despair moves to overwhelm all hope and light from the spirit, a Soldier of the People steps forth from within and with a chuckle realizes - ‘Well, this is a muck up. I guess I’ll just have to hang on for a little bit.’ 

​Perspective Man - able to laugh about it later, and now. 
Perspective Man - humanity’s champion for assigning appropriate levels of importance to circumstances and emotions. 
Perspective Man - gifted with the power to understand that buried within the hard moments of life are points of value. ​

 
​There is more to be understood about Perspective Man: firstly, Perspective Man is not Legend Man - they are just mates. Legend Man always makes the right choice, considers all the consequences and is pretty much an all-round legend all the time. Perspective man, however, seems to fairly regularly get into situations that are uncomfortable, stressful, difficult or less than ideal. It’s what Perspective Man does from there that makes all the difference. 
 
Perspective Man makes mistakes and stuffs-up, in fact he is quite a bit like his other friend, Clown Man, from that point of view. Both of these guys are just trying to figure it all out and make good choices. Clown Man, however, really struggles to understand how to feel about the problems that occur in his world. Perspective Man always says, ‘Clown Man, the important thing is to stay with the crap feelings - it is these kinds of experiences that will help us to reflect, search for solutions and find value.’ 
 
One particular power that Perspective Man is imbued with is the perception to know when something is truly important. Despite the various external, and sometimes internal, pressures that impact upon him to behave and think in certain ways, Perspective Man can effectively identify the essential priorities in life and is able to find the courage to pursue them. 
 
Perspective Man knows when to work hard, knows when to laugh, knows when to stay and breathe in the challenges. Perspective Man accurately attributes meaning and importance to the constantly changing circumstances of the world. He doesn't get it right every time, however he does always know that even if its not ok, it is still ok.
 
Perspective Man is not constantly happy, he is however grateful to be here and is determined to be in it. 

​​In our lives we interact with a wide range of people, and are a feature in their interpersonal landscape. The people we know serve as one of our key motivators, complicators, and sources of joy - the people around us matter. 
 
As we ramble through life we are regularly shoved face-first into engagement with others. We manage, enjoy, tolerate, celebrate, consider and evaluate these interactions, and the people involved. There is a near constant process of being drawn towards, or repelled from, the wonderfully unique range of individuals who form our worlds. 
 
What we experience when appraising and appreciating others depends on behaviours and attitudes. People operate their lives based on all kinds of beliefs, reactions, philosophical structures, and often simple instinctual action. 
 
Some examples could be:
 
Giving a present -

• it is a reflection of a belief structure - today is your birthday … here is your present … a new bowtie for wearing on formal occasions. 
• or, is an expression of your emotional state - I feel such connection and love for you that I bought you this cupcake. 
• or, it is a mechanism to influence and modify the people around you - now that you have this stylish keep-cup, perhaps you won’t have to consume the planet with a disposable cup of coffee everyday. 

 
Whenever ranking another person’s needs against our own -

• there is a choice made based on a set code of conduct - You are from another country, stressed, and at an airport, here please use my phone. 
• or, it is an instinctual reaction for satisfaction which guides behaviour - I’m going to change lanes and go through that yellow light … you will probably need to brake and then stop. 
• or, a logical calculation based on information and an ideal of the best possible outcome  - that person has been waiting far longer than I have … they should have the last Marble Rye. 

 
In all situations people react and live their lives guided by dogma, experience, instinct, belief or random action. We walk around the place and interact in different and distinct ways. We vibrate on different frequencies. 
 
It is these differences that serve to make our world interesting, and potentially it is these various complicated frequencies that draw us towards specific individuals.  There are people in our lives  who we think are great. Maybe everyone thinks that person is great; perhaps it is just you. Regardless, that person’s internal mixture of beliefs, structures, instincts and behaviours strike you deeply as excellent. 
 
These people are ‘the good ones’. As far as you are concerned they manage to regularly make choices, display behaviour and represent ideas, that vibrate at a frequency which you fundamentally find wonderful. From a deep and essential place in your being you are able to truly experience value from interactions with them. Something inside you says, “that is a good one”. 
 
This perception can occur with people you know deeply and see regularly, or with individuals who bounce occasionally against your life. Perhaps you understand their motivations and ideas intimately, or maybe you just know, that most times you observe the way they go about their lives there is something special and valuable. 
 
You don’t really have to know why. It is, however, important to take a moment to recognise the truth … which is: that person is special to you. There is peace and happiness to be found in finding a moment to appreciate the valuable people who populate your life. And possibly further benefit in celebrating and sharing the positive influence of their existence on your life. 
 
The Good Ones, you know what they are to you. An interesting question is, do they?